The Podcast

Sometimes, even when we’re on our best behavior and doing all the things right to stay in our own lane the other person still doesn’t do things the way we want them to, and that can be so frustrating ...

Learning how to stay in your own lane can be tricky because so often what we see as being helpful and kind and of service, is actually getting in someone else’s lane. In this podcast we’re going to lo...

In this episode we explore the idea of staying in your own lane—taking responsibility for your own feelings, choices, and boundaries rather than trying to control or fix others. Though it can be easy ...

We all get triggered, it’s part of being a human with an imperfect past. That’s not the problem. The problem can be figuring out what to do when these moments of being triggered start harming our rela...

Research shows that the quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of our relationships. I have learned a lot over the past seven years of coaching clients on difficult relationships and in divo...

Sione and I have been married four years. That seems like such a short time, and yet, I can hardly remember life without him in it. We have had so much to learn about ourselves and about each other an...

Humans are wired for connection but our primitive, protective brain often sabotages intimacy, making marriage hard. Each partner brings a personal “story” (adaptive behaviors from childhood) that feel...

Never let a problem to be solved be more important than a person to be loved.”  Problems and familiar processes trigger our primitive brain to rush for quick fixes, but those dopamine hits often cost ...

I believe most of us are living far below our capacity for joy and fulfillment and wholeness. The fear of failure, of the unknown, of being uncertain holds us back from being willing to take a risk an...

Sometimes it can feel difficult to validate the people we are in relationship with. Validation is an effective way to support others and let them know we see their struggle and that we love them, so h...

Judging others seems to be as easy for us as breathing air, and yet, when we judge we create an inner turmoil that exacts energy from us and leaves us feeling drained and exhausted. When we can learn ...

A decades-long research project has learned that the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships. And what a tragedy that so many of us do not have the tools to create deep, intim...