The Podcast

Moving into comparison and judgment is such a normal, human thing to do. And we can learn to harness these tendencies to create more of the kind, loving, compassionate relationships we want. Learning ...

We all have rich emotional histories spanning our entire lifetime. And every single day these histories are shaping how we show up in the world, how we respond to other people, and how we interpret th...

Do you ever wonder what the best advice is from mid-life coaches? In this podcast I am chatting with two of my great life coach friends, Brooke Onike and Jane Copier, and we are sharing some of the mo...

When we develop charity, everything in our lives gets better. We develop the capacity to treat others with more kindness and grace, and our self-respect increases as we do so. We live more in alignmen...

Sometimes, even when we’re on our best behavior and doing all the things right to stay in our own lane the other person still doesn’t do things the way we want them to, and that can be so frustrating ...

Learning how to stay in your own lane can be tricky because so often what we see as being helpful and kind and of service, is actually getting in someone else’s lane. In this podcast we’re going to lo...

In this episode we explore the idea of staying in your own lane—taking responsibility for your own feelings, choices, and boundaries rather than trying to control or fix others. Though it can be easy ...

We all get triggered, it’s part of being a human with an imperfect past. That’s not the problem. The problem can be figuring out what to do when these moments of being triggered start harming our rela...

Research shows that the quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of our relationships. I have learned a lot over the past seven years of coaching clients on difficult relationships and in divo...

Sione and I have been married four years. That seems like such a short time, and yet, I can hardly remember life without him in it. We have had so much to learn about ourselves and about each other an...

Humans are wired for connection but our primitive, protective brain often sabotages intimacy, making marriage hard. Each partner brings a personal “story” (adaptive behaviors from childhood) that feel...

Never let a problem to be solved be more important than a person to be loved.”  Problems and familiar processes trigger our primitive brain to rush for quick fixes, but those dopamine hits often cost ...