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I often hear people use phrases like, 'I hate change', or 'I don't like change', or 'I'm not good at change.'  And though these may seem like helpful phrases to express our discomfort with change, the...

So many of us were raised with ideas about what it meant to be a 'good' wife, mother, daughter, sister, or friend.  And we now use these ideas to beat ourselves up when we don't measure up.  What if I...

All of have times when our behavior doesn't match up with who we really want to be.  That's part of being human.  Understanding why we, and others, don't always behave our best is a great way to creat...

Many of us were impacted by the Book The 5 Love Languages in our earlier years. For me, I was impacted negatively because I used the concepts as a weapon against my spouse, a way to prove he wasn't do...

Learning how to stay in our own lane can be tricky because it is often disguised as love and wanting to help.  And yet, when we try to control other people's thoughts or feelings, when we try to contr...

So many of us are miserable in partnerships because we feel unseen and unheard.  We feel that our wants and needs are not considered and that our worth depends on how well we fulfill the wants and nee...

I am often asked what the difference is between people pleasing and being kind.  It's a great question because often the behavior will look exactly the same.  The difference lies in our motives behind...

The phrase 'I'm fine' can be so destructive to our relationships.  Often we use it to deflect having a tough conversation, but what we're really doing is lying and gaslighting.  What we are really doi...

Our tendency as humans to have a drama response to situations is so normal.  But not helpful.  Dropping into drama expends a lot of energy, causes us to show up in ways we're not proud of later, and o...

'Should' is a word that is used way more in our conversations than it 'should' be.  It's a passive-aggressive word that pulls our judgment and lack of acceptance into a nice little bundle that says, '...

There are things in life that happen to us that are not our fault.  For example, our spouse may have an affair and want a divorce.  To stay out of victim mentality, it's important that we step into re...

Another blast from the past!  I love this episode so much, it's a replay of episode #195, What Are You Sorry For?  'I'm sorry' is probably one of the most used phrases by women in our society.  We hav...