The Podcast

Living in alignment is a place where our thoughts and behaviors are aligned with our values.  Just because we are human we will get out of alignment, we will say and do things that hurt others, that b...

I work with a lot of clients who don't feel they are equally yoked with their partner, meaning, they don't feel they are both 'all in' or even in at the same level, and yet they want to stay in the re...

My journey to become a life coach started when I was a teenager, and became a reality about the time I got divorced.  The tools I teach have been instrumental in me learning to get out of divorce vict...

Thinking that our spouse is our responsibility can cause a few different problems in our relationship.  First, we can overstep boundaries when we, with every good intention, try to be responsible (tak...

I often hear people use phrases like, 'I hate change', or 'I don't like change', or 'I'm not good at change.'  And though these may seem like helpful phrases to express our discomfort with change, the...

So many of us were raised with ideas about what it meant to be a 'good' wife, mother, daughter, sister, or friend.  And we now use these ideas to beat ourselves up when we don't measure up.  What if I...

All of have times when our behavior doesn't match up with who we really want to be.  That's part of being human.  Understanding why we, and others, don't always behave our best is a great way to creat...

Many of us were impacted by the Book The 5 Love Languages in our earlier years. For me, I was impacted negatively because I used the concepts as a weapon against my spouse, a way to prove he wasn't do...

Learning how to stay in our own lane can be tricky because it is often disguised as love and wanting to help.  And yet, when we try to control other people's thoughts or feelings, when we try to contr...

So many of us are miserable in partnerships because we feel unseen and unheard.  We feel that our wants and needs are not considered and that our worth depends on how well we fulfill the wants and nee...

I am often asked what the difference is between people pleasing and being kind.  It's a great question because often the behavior will look exactly the same.  The difference lies in our motives behind...

The phrase 'I'm fine' can be so destructive to our relationships.  Often we use it to deflect having a tough conversation, but what we're really doing is lying and gaslighting.  What we are really doi...