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#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook

#grace #oneuponedown #oneuponedownrelationships #relationshiprepair #senseofself #shame #shouldingyourself Mar 17, 2025

Sometimes we go into a one-down space and spin in shame, other times we might go into a one-up space and justify our poor behavior by blaming others, both responses that harm our relationships. When we can, instead, approach our struggles from an ‘all people are equal’ mentality, we have the capacity to offer ourselves grace for our humanity. Understanding that all people are humans who make mistakes, who are figuring it out, levels the playing field and gives us permission to offer ourselves and others grace for those human moments.

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