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#352 Lessons Learned in Our Third Year of Marriage

Sione and I are just hitting our third anniversary. On this podcast we share what we have learned and incorporated this last year regarding how curiosity creates a safe space. Learning to slow down, t...

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#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook

Sometimes we go into a one-down space and spin in shame, other times we might go into a one-up space and justify our poor behavior by blaming others, both responses that harm our relationships. When w...

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#350 Getting Back Up After Divorce

Divorce is one of those experiences that kicks you in the chest and knocks you on your butt, and it can be so difficult to get back up. And yet, at some point we have to get back up and step back into...

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#349 It’s Okay If People Don’t Like You

All of us have people who don’t like us, even if we are the most kind and Christlike person we know. It’s just part of our human experience. When we can learn to accept other people’s agency to not li...

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#348 Entitled Expectation

Expectation is a funny word. It means that we think something should happen a certain way or that someone should behave in a certain way, two things we rarely, if ever, have control over. What I’ve fo...

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#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

All relationships struggle, so all relationships need repair. Knowing how to repair is an essential skill for creating healthy and happy relationships, and that darn ego of ours can make it so difficu...

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#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

I love Viktor Frankl’s quote “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I am reminded by this...

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#345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione

Just as women were raised with societal ideas and expectations around their sexuality, so were men. And so many of these ideas are actually harmful, and even destructive, to the emotional intimacy we ...

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#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

Learning how to be vulnerable can be a scary and tough skill to acquire. So can learning to let other people in our lives be vulnerable. Because when others show up vulnerable, it can shake our ideas ...

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#343 Greatest Hits - Why Vulnerability Matters

Many of us grew up in homes where we didn't receive any training about vulnerability in relationships. We were fairly uneducated about emotions, and it is very detrimental in our marriage relationship...

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#342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like?

If we are going to be all-in in our relationships, we have to be vulnerable, and that can feel super scary.  Sometimes it's difficult because we are in a new relationship and it can be hard to be the ...

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#341 Choosing To Be All In

Relationships can be hard. If we have created a protective pattern over the years, we may find that we are in a pattern of leaning out emotionally in our marriage and not having the intimate connectio...

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