- #161 Developing More Intimacy in Your Relationships
Sometimes our relationships can tend to get a little shallow. Specifically I notice my relationship with God, with myself, and with others can all struggle at times. That’s because relationships are never a ‘one and done’ situation — they require consistent nourishment if they are to thrive and continue to deepen in intimacy. Today’s we’ll chat about four things we can do to keep connected and moving forward in our relationships.
- #160 Being Single and Being Lonely
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. Lonely is a feeling caused by our thoughts, when we learn to be more intentional about our thoughts, we will be more fulfilled and happy with where we are, single or not. What thoughts are holding you back and which ones with move you forward? Let’s chat about it.
- #159 When Your Brain Lies To You
The first time we realize that our brain consistently lies to us, it can seem a little strange. I think we have this underlying belief that our brain processes and figures things out and always tells the truth. But it doesn’t. And generally the lies it tells don’t serve us very well and move us into a better version of ourselves. Usually they keep us stuck in a place we don’t want to be. Today we’ll chat about how to figure out when your brain is lying and what to do about it.
- #158 Sometimes Dysfunction Is Easier
All of us engage in dysfunctional behavior, unhealthy patterns of behavior that create disconnection. Sometimes we’re completely unaware of the dysfunction, but other times we intentionally choose to look away and not see it because it can be so uncomfortable. Only when we are willing to step in and take a closer look, engage with the dysfunction, and move into healing it can we create the connections and the relationships we desire.
- #157 Friend-Zoning Your Adult Children
One of the toughest things about being a parent of adult children is letting go of the desire to continue to parent them. We have been so used to having expectations of how we want them to behave and what we want them to do, that letting go of that can be difficult. But once they’re adults, it’s time to friend-zone them and step away from parenting them. Let’s talk about how to do that.
- #156 The Benefits of Being Wrong
Some of us can have strong physical and emotional reactions to being wrong, and it can make us very resistant to the experience. But learning to look for and embrace the experience of being wrong can have some amazing benefits to us. When we learn to step into the more humble space of understanding where we are wrong, we can step into a stronger and happier version of ourselves.
- #155 How To Forgive Anyone
Forgiving can sometimes be so difficult. When we feel we have been severely wronged, letting go of the pain and the anger and the resentment can seem overwhelming. And sometimes, we don’t even know where to start with moving into forgiveness. Today we are going to talk about how to do just that. How to forgive anyone. It may seem a pretty large task, but it is possible.
- #154 Rethinking Kindness
Kindness has so often been associated with acts – Acts of Kindness. What if we were to back this up a bit and start with Thoughts of Kindness and see the difference it would make in how we, and the recipients of our kindness, felt? Focusing on our thoughts rather than our acts will create a completely different experience.
- #153 The Manual
All of us tend to have manuals for how we believe other people should behave. What we find, is that our expectations for them are a way to try to control their behavior so that we can feel better. When we seek to control other people’s behavior, it never turns out very well. They feel manipulated and we feel horrible because they’re not doing what we think they should and then we’re angry or frustrated on top of it. It’s time to figure this one out!
- #152 Victim or Hero?
Every experience we have in our lives gets turned into a story in our brain. And in our story, we generally become either the hero or the victim (and maybe sometimes the villain!) When we choose to become the victim, we feel disempowered and experience little to no growth, or may even decline a bit. And it’s so easy and can feel so good to be the victim! When we choose to become the hero, we are empowered and step into a space of growth that can be amazing. Let’s chat today about how to become your own hero of your story.